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The first time I started a blog, it was because I had something to say, hence the turningsixty blog was born. Then I started the MyBookBlog, an ongoing project to help me write 'The Book'.
Now, this one looks like being a "Sometimes Journal", definitely a reflection of the current pace of my life.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

funny story - communication

I don't suppose our family is different to many others. Except we do seem to have more than our share of people who have trouble 'listening'. Many of the women would qualify to 'talk for Australia' and I am sure could talk without stopping for hours, even underwater. But listen? hmm. We are aware of this and we are actively working on it. It came to the fore at the family gatherings that happened after Roberta's funeral, like a lot of families we've been neglecting the family gatherings. We are working on that too!

For myself I like the ideas in the book 'Don't Sweat The Small Stuff' on this subject. I have a cutout of 'Think before you speak' stuck on my message board. And it works.
Practice Patience
Richard Carlson shares specific techniques on how to slow down, develop compassion and practice patience. This includes simple advice such as learning not to correct others, criticize or interrupt them.

It’s easier to listen effectively once the focus is on the other person rather than the response, correction or judgment


I also like the idea of 'writing' and the social network programs are great for this. We are slowly getting everybody connected to make sharing among us easier.

[Facebook] The idea that when/if you write it down, send a message to somebody, that message gots HEARD without interruption, and and when the reply comes back, then it will be READ without interruption. Bliss! Of course it wont stop the arguments.. cos that another trait of this family.. all chiefs no indians.

AND so to the point of the Post..

It was last night I think, no, Monday night. One of my sisters rang to say she was free to come and have dinner with me, she would bring the food, she says, the ingredients to make us a curry. Fine, I've got the cucumber for raita and lots of different chutneys.

First things first, and we go into the kitchen (both talking nonstop) and empty the bags onto the bench.

"What are we going to cook this in?"
We study the pots..
"I usually cook curry in the slow-cooker; 2 hours on high is enough for this amount of diced meat and you dont have to watch it.."

"What about this one, I like this one.."
"It's an electric Wok.."

Pulls another pot out of the cupboard:
"Don't you have one bigger than this?"
I get her the biggest saucepan I have..

And so we continue on for the next little while, me taking orders for herbs and spices and vegies (and my knives arent sharp enough but we make do..)

We are finally ready to start cooking:
"Can you turn this thing on for me..?
"What thing..?"
She means the slow-cooker of course, could have been on half-an-hour ago if she'd listened to me, never mind we arent in any hurry..

We sit and talk, about life and love, all that important stuff women talk about, until enough time has passed that we start to wonder if our food is cooked.
"Let's have a look.."
"Hmm looks okay to me.."

She puts out 2 small plates, and I say, "They wont be big enough, we have the curry and rice and raita and chutney and pappadums, all that.."

And so, given all of the above, and the time we worked together side by side,preparing the food; can you imagine my surprise when she lifts the lid on the cooker, and it is full of CHICKEN PIECES, nicely cooked sure, but I was expecting BEEF CURRY!!!

How crazy, that two people can cook two different meals in the same pot at the same time..
SOMEBODY wan't paying attention..




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